Jay and I are grandparents! We are not just grandparents, we are PROUD grandparents, and are convinced (as all grandparents are) that our granddaughter is the most beautiful baby in the whole world.
On December 26, 2015 our granddaughter, Sadie Marie was born at 10:15 PM. She weighed 7 pounds 1 1/2 ounces and is 21 inches long. As you can see by the picture below, she has a full head of hair and she has gorgeous beautiful blue eyes.
The day before she was born, Christmas Day, I found myself thinking about Mary and her being pregnant. I also found that she took it all in stride so much better than I would have. I don't consider myself a prissy woman, but I admit, I do not like getting dirty and I do not do gross and/or stinky.
Here is Mary, this young, unmarried woman who was told she's going to have a baby. I would've been like "Yeah right! Where's the cameras?" And then finds out she gets an arranged marriage, no say in who it is, no say in whether they're tall, short, thin, heavy, or whether she would even find him attractive. It's just here you go...his name is Joseph. Joseph didn't have much say either, but then again this is not about him.
So Mary goes about her pregnancy, dealing with what all women deal with... Sore back, stretch marks, unable to find a comfortable position to sleep in, plus she had no air-conditioning when the hormones are raging. Then comes the day where Joseph comes home from work and says "Honey we're going on a trip!" If that had been me, my first statement would've been "I had better be to a spa, because my back is killing me, I can't even reach my toes to paint them, and my hair could use some highlights." Nothing is written about what Mary's reaction was, but I'm guessing as sweet as she sounds that she was just up for whatever and said "Ok, let's go!"
He meets her out front with her ride for the trip.…a Donkey. When I was seven months pregnant with my son, my husband and I went on a trip where we rode in the van for seven hours. I was still uncomfortable in spite of the fact it had soft cushioned seats that reclined. I had nice cool air or heat blowing on me which ever the temperature necessitated, and I could listen to music or just daydream. Mary got a donkey. A donkey. They are stinky, they're noisy, and it could not have been a very comfortable ride...she didn't even have a backrest or pillow!
So they get to their "resort town" only to find that Joseph didn't make a reservation (way to go Joe), and it was obviously tourist season because all the hotels were full. Ugh! I would've been back on that darn donkey saying "take me home NOW!" , but Joseph excitedly says "hey I found a guy that's going to be willing to help us out, and he gave us a place to sleep for the night." To me that would've meant we had to settle for a 2-star hotel with no continental breakfast, but poor Mary didn't even get that. Joseph leads her around behind the hotel to a barn. Seriously, a barn? I would've been so off-the-wall angry and frustrated, and I'm willing to bet Joseph was probably hiding behind one of the support beams in case she threw something at him. But then again she was likely extremely exhausted, and uncomfortable and just grateful to be able to lie down. Even if it was on some bedding...where animals had been laying...and pooping. :-/
I would've told Joseph that he can go over to the other side of the barn and sleep with the pigs, and that he was not to say a word to me the rest of the night. But as luck would have it, Mary has to call to him because her water breaks. Great, just great! This is the most unsanitary place to give birth, but what's a girl to do when a baby says it's time?
There were no doctors or nurses to call, Mary's mother wasn't there with her, and she had no girlfriends to call and ask to come over to help. It was just her and Joseph. Two young people who have never had a child before, two young people who are alone in a stinky barn, with no crib, no car seat, no cute little matching outfit and blanket set, not even a pacifier. They had nothing with them. But the baby is coming regardless.
So with animals eating and watching her, and Joseph sitting there freaking out because he doesn't know what to do to help, Mary gives birth. Did they tie off the umbilical cord? Did he cut it? We're there even scissors back then?
They didn't even have a blanket to wrap the baby in after he was born (did they not get the memo that you're to have your bag packed and in your vehicle, or in this case, on the donkey anytime you go anywhere?), and so they found some old cloths in the barn to use, again not exactly sterile, and they wrapped him up in it. Remember how I said they had no crib? Nope, they took one of the little feeding troughs, put some bedding in it, and that's where the baby slept. No matching sheet set, no little mobile, and no cute little pictures on the wall. Not exactly how you want your baby's first day to begin....but they would be quite the photos to show the family back home.
Any woman who's ever given birth knows that there's a very sensitive part of your body that has just been through a war after birth, and for a while, just sitting is just excruciating. Does Mary get a sitz bath? Do they have a bidet for her to use? Did she even get a massage? No, no, and no! What did she get? Another ride on that darn donkey. Only now she has to hold on to the baby, and try to sit on the donkey without the benefit of one of those little inflatable donuts. Nursing while on that donkey had to be great fun as well. If Joseph was smart, he never even looked back to see how things were going as soon as they started on their way.
This explains why God did not choose me to give birth to our king. Mary went through all that with grace, and love, and as it says in the Bible "she kept all these things and pondered them in her heart." Me? I would've been shouting to everyone "You are not gonna believe what Joseph did, and what I just went through!" Thank you God so very much for choosing Mary.